🏳🌈In the event that you gladly distinguish as an individual from the LGBT people group, you may have a companion covertly disclose to you that they're scrutinizing their sexuality. While your common reaction is to shout "ONE OF US" and send the rainbow confetti from overhead, I'd suggest making a stride back.
Here are some positive approaches to help a companion who's scrutinizing their sexuality.
1. Try not to utilize marks
Marks are screwing startling, particularly for individuals who are addressing. Regardless of whether they say they're keen on somebody of a similar sexual orientation, there's still no compelling reason to utilize the word gay or indiscriminate. Give them a chance to be the one to utilize it when they're prepared.
2. Abstain from asking yes or no inquiries
"What kind of considerations have you been having?" "How have they influenced you?" Try to inspire them to open up a smidgen. Once in a while, the simple demonstration of saying the words out loud is sufficient to clear up our cloudy considerations. Give them a chance to express their musings and sentiments.
3. Tune in, and after that, if fitting, prompt
Truly, you've been there, and you will have a relentless inclination to give counsel. Keep down. Don't at first heave guidance the minute they converse with you. Hear them out first. At that point, after they're full scale of words, inquire as to whether you can reveal to them what was useful for you. In the event that they say indeed, at that point don't hesitate to exhort delicately.
4. Understand their way is unique
In any case, there are such a significant number of likenesses among you and them. You had indistinguishable considerations when addressing. That may be the situation, however they didn't experience childhood in your family. They didn't have similar companions. Their life is unique. Regard it all things considered.
5. Try not to attach with them
This shouldn't should be stated, yet I will in any case say it since I've witnessed it. Your companion isn't coming to you to explore. They're coming to you for help. Help isn't exploiting a powerless and befuddled companion by pushing your lips all over.
6. Try not to push them toward any path
Empower acknowledgment, receptiveness, and investigation. Accentuate the significance of living without self-judgment. Try not to drive them in a "straighter" or "gayer" heading. That is not your activity as a companion.
7. Grow your idea of "straightness"
A straight individual can recognize that a gay individual is charming. That doesn't mean they're gay or bi. We should push the points of confinement of what straight can be. I'd even venture to state that straight individuals can really like somebody of a similar sex and still think about themselves straight. A mans sexual personality shouldn't eject due to a solitary idea. That doesn't do any useful for straight OR LGBT people.
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